Bill Connelly spent five days in England to search for the heart of English soccer, compare football crowds to futbol crowds, and figure out why everybody was telling him not to rent a car.
IX. Seven Reactions
Your team, such a pleasant, entertaining surprise last season, was decimated on paper by departures, but it has been superior to last year's league runners-up on the road for a majority of the match. Your crowd has been vocal and entertaining and has far out-performed what so many reflexively call the best fans in the sport. Your Southampton Saints have earned at least a point from their trip to Anfield.
In the 78th minute, however, Southampton has just allowed what will soon become the game-winning goal, a follow-the-bouncing-ball score that eventually went from Raheem Sterling's head to Daniel Sturridge's left toe and into the net. You've gone from thinking realistically about a road upset to talking moral victories.
In the seconds following Sturridge's goal, one could see every possible reaction to sudden disappointment in the Southampton cheering section. Let's follow the numbers above (click on the link for a larger image). If you're a supporter long enough, you go through all of these stages at one point or another, depending on maturity level (or lack thereof), lot in life, etc.
1. Argue with your friends. No idea whether the guy in blue is the aggressor or defender in this exchange, but he was invariably one or the other. When the ball goes in the net, the aggressor immediately lashes out at whichever player was most victimized (in his judgment). The defender defends. We've all heard this argument. Most of us have been a part of it. I once had to help break up a fight between Missouri fans during a road loss.
2. Go comatose. Internalize, internalize, internalize. This usually has an impact on the state of your fingernails. Something bad just happened, and the fans/players you were rooting against are awfully happy. You are quickly reaching resignation, but your head is still spinning a bit. You're also bargaining -- there are still 12+ minutes left, your attack has still looked pretty good, you still have a chance to salvage a draw, but ... shit.
3. Seek iPhone solace. This can go in a few different directions. Either you direct your rage toward Twitter venting, or you measure others' reactions so you don't have to think about your own, or you look desperately for a distraction. Smart phones are godsends for all of these reasons. I have no idea how I directed my disappointment before them; perhaps there's a reason why most of my experiences with No. 1 above happened before they came into my life.
4. Argue with your spouse. This is admittedly not the most common route -- spouses? at a match? -- though one can see an almost surprising number of potential couples in the photo above.
5. Gaze outward. This is on the same branch as No. 2, but with a more wistful, philosophical, experienced tone. Instead of "Dammit," or "We still have a chance," you're thinking more along the lines of "Oh, so it's one of THOSE days." You gaze either forward or upward. This is my most common state of disappointment these days. I've experienced enough frustrating moments; I've had plenty of practice.
6. Comfort others. You care, but you put your arm on the shoulder of someone who cares a bit more. I ... don't really think I've seen much of this one in my sports lifetime.
7. Combust. I originally took this photo because of a young man, probably aged 21-25, who had been a fascinating watch all match long. His emotions were not in any way internalized. When Southampton fans chanted "Is this a library?" early in the match*, he was the one striving to make cocky eye contact with the most possible Liverpool fans. When Liverpool scored the first goal, he was the one warned by security to tone it down after turning purple and shouting at opposing fans. When Southampton evened the match in the second half, he was the one creating a near-dogpile in his section. His friend/caretaker was nearly giving the look of a weary spouse -- "He gets like this sometimes, but he calms down after the match, and he's really a good person, I swear."
I took this photo because I wanted to gauge his mental state in the moments following the goal and, in case of humor, document it. Turns out, he was nowhere to be seen. Either he stormed out of the premises the moment the ball hit the net, he was removed by security, or he spontaneously combusted. His match spouse did not seem particularly concerned about him, but he most assuredly didn't make an appearance the rest of the match.
And hey, we've all been there to some degree. After a particularly annoying basketball loss during my undergrad years, I stormed out of my dorm and walked around campus for 30 minutes, in the snow, in a T-shirt. Rage is its own winter coat.
* It really was jarring how few chants were coming out of the Liverpool stands. Southampton fans, like Derby County fans at Hillsborough the day before, were most entertaining. They chanted constantly, at least until Liverpool took the lead. They came out strong in the second half, then reached fifth gear when the Saints tied the match. They even did their "Saints go marching in" chant again when the match had ended, just to close the proceedings. Liverpool fans obviously brought the heat for "You'll Never Walk Alone" (both before the match and in abbreviated fashion as the match was coming to an end) and erupted after goals, but the incessant chanting really wasn't there. Maybe they were too concerned by the iffy Liverpool squad they were watching? Maybe this is normal?
A goal is magical. Soccer is a game of failure, of almost nothing but misses. You are conditioned to assume that attacks will fail, and when they fail to fail, you sometimes have about a half-second's notice. The result isn't just a "YAAAH!" sound like most touchdowns create. It is a "YAAAH!" combined with the sound an old person makes getting out of a chair, a sort of gutteral "HURRR-AAAAAH!" that is both unique and glorious. It also creates the faces above.
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The 1989 Hillsborough disaster memorial. (Bill Connelly)
Goodison Park. (Getty Images) 










